Nowadays you are free to choose whether to be married or not, to have love marriage or marriage of convenience.
Generation Gap: parents’ responsibilities and children feedback.
The generational gap is a term popularized in Western countries during the 1960s referring to differences between people of a younger generation and their elders, especially between children and their parents.
Each generation are reared in society with the certain culture. Culture changes fast, especially music, fashion, and politics. And each generation receives the unique set of knowledge about life. That is why having received different sets generations can’t understand each other.
Parents find the language their kids are using nowadays as disrespectful. They complain that their kids spend more time chatting on the net, or partying rather than spend time with their books or attend family gatherings. They can't anymore find time to sit together and discuss family issues like normal human beings. The parents disapprove with what their daughters wear especially tattoos nose rings and belly rings. Parents are shocked to how much their kids know about sex.
On the other hand, kids are complaining that their own parents simply don't understand them. Their parents are authoritarian and want things to stay as ancient as they are. They see them as monsters that seem not to understand what their kids are going through at school from peer pressure to tons and tons of homework and research. They complain that their parents and them don't see eye to eye. They never hear them .Kids believe that their parents never see them old enough to form their own opinions even at the age of seventeen. When they try to reason out, they are told to shut up and keep their opinions to themselves. And so , their parents are responsible to decide for them what will they be in the future (doctors or teachers).
I think it is hard to understand each other, but parents and children should try.
At first, children should understand that parents love them and let them show their love.
Then, parents always want to prevent us from any danger, and the fact, that they don’t know much of their children life make them to be more controlling, imperious. Parents should be friends to their children from the infantile age, in the situation there are no problems of misunderstanding.
Parents should forget the situation of their childhood and rear children according to the modern society for to understand children, to make them prepared to the society and to show them all aspects of the society both positive and negative. If a child know how to behave in different situations he won’t rush to extremes.
The other point is that parents should try on modern pleasures to feel the pleasure that their children receive from ,for example, serving the internet(where they could find different information), modern music (fashion returns and maybe the modern music is like theirs with some changes), fashion (when you are brightly dressed and everyone stared at you- it is something like adrenalin)
And of cause, children should understand that their parents are not ancient and they have tried much in the youth and could tell really interesting stories from their life.
In the conclusion, I could say that being friends will help to understand each other and to avoid such problem as generation gap.
Divorce: what way it affects the family values.
Divorce (or the dissolution of marriage) is the final termination of a marital union, canceling the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage and dissolving the bonds of matrimony between the parties.
Divorce laws vary considerably around the world but in most countries it requires the sanction of a court or other authority in a legal process. The legal process for divorce may also involve issues of alimony (spousal support), child custody, child support, distribution of property and division of debt.
Between 1971 and 2011, several countries legalized divorce, the last one Malta in 2011. This leaves just the Philippines as the only country that does not have a civil procedure for divorce for the whole population. Vatican City also has no procedure for divorce.
Some of the effects associated with divorce include academic, behavioral, and psychological problems. Although this may not always be true, studies suggest that children from divorced families are more likely to exhibit such behavioral issues than those from non-divorced families.
Research suggests that divorce can have a positive effect on families due to less conflict in the home. There are, however, many instances where the parent-child relationship may suffer due to divorce. Financial support is many times lost when an adult goes through a divorce. The adult may be obligated to obtain additional work to maintain financial stability. In turn, this can lead to a negative relationship between the parent and child. The relationship may suffer due to lack of attention towards the child.
Studies have also shown that parental skills decrease after a divorce occurs; however, this affect is only a temporary change.
In a study found that a move of a parent is a long-term affect on children. In divorced families where one parent moved, the students received less financial support from their parents compared with divorced families where neither parent moved. These findings also imply other negative outcomes for these students such as more distress related to the divorce and did not feel a sense of emotional support from their parents. A newer study that parents who move more than an hour away from their children after a divorce are much less well off than those parents who stayed in the same location.
Children who have experienced a divorce have lower academic achievement than children from non-divorced families. In a review it noted that it is two times more likely for a child from a divorced family to drop out of high school than a child from a non-divorced family. These children from divorced families may also be less likely to attend college, resulting in the discontinuation of their academic career.
Sociologists and psychologists have researched to show that the effects of divorce heavily depend on the child’s age at the time the divorce occurs. The child’s gender, personality, the amount of conflicts with the parents and support of family and friends all contribute to the effects of divorce on a child.
· Infants-Although infants may not understand the exact conflict, they do react to the difference in their parent’s mood and energy change. Some effects an infant may have include a loss of appetite and an increase in spit up.
· Pre-School Children-Children this age range from 3–5 years old and may often mistake the divorce as their own fault. At this age, children may feel as though they are alone and fear the thought of abandonment. Some of the effects for children at this age may include baby-like behavior such as old toys, a baby blanket, or even wetting the bed. They also may become depressed, uncooperative, or angry.
· School-aged Children-Children at this age have more of a difficult time adjusting to the parental divorce than younger or older children. At this age, children are able to understand the pain they feel due to the separation of their parents’ but are too young to control how they respond to the pain. Many times children experience feelings of anger, grief, and embarrassment. In order to deal with the situation and cope, it is important that children become involved in activities with other kids. It is very common for children this age to hope that parents will eventually get back together.
· Adolescents-Teens experience some of the same feelings as school-aged children. They feel anger, fear, depression, loneliness, and guilt. Some teens feel as though they must take on new responsibilities such as new chores and taking care of siblings. Teens may also doubt his or her ability to get married or stay married.