TEXT 1. SOCIALIZING WITH COLLEAGUES

BUSINESS COMMUNICATION

 

The aim of this Unit is to make you be aware of the significance of establishing fruitful personal relationships with your potential business partner in order to succeed in future business dealings; as well as to give you a clear idea of various patterns and ways of socializing in different business cultures.

 

READING

Work with a partner and discuss these questions.

  1. Why is socializing so necessary in business?
  2. Many business people find socializing more difficult than a business meeting. Why?
  3. Do the same rules work when socializing with colleagues and friends?

 

Now read the text and check your answers.

 

TEXT 1. SOCIALIZING WITH COLLEAGUES

 

Speak clearly, if you speak at all; carve every word before you let it fall.

Oliver Wendell Holmes

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Socializing is necessary in business if you want to build a relationship with someone. A good relationship can help you to do business more easily — and it's more rewarding to deal with people you know than with strangers. A good personal relationship creates a stronger business relationship. Many business people find socializing more difficult than a business meeting. In a meeting there's usually a deadline and everyone knows they have to talk business and they have an agenda to guide them.

Socializing is hard because people who don't know each other well have to find topics of mutual interest to talk about. Different cultures have different ideas about socializing with colleagues. In some cultures, office colleagues often go out to eat and drink with one another. In other cultures, only friends go out together, and working relationships are more distant and formal.

When meeting someone for the first time, it is common to greet them with a firm handshake in Britain. Verbal greetings are usually enough when meeting old friends or acquaintances. Among close friends and family, women usually greet each other with a kiss on the cheek. If you are unsure about what to do - especially on social occasions - the rule is to observe what other people do and go with the flow.

If you are invited to dinner or to a party in their room by one of your friends, it is a good idea not to go empty-handed. A bottle of wine is usually enough. Though if you don't drink, don't let this dissuade you from accepting an invitation! There are a variety of non-alcoholic drinks you can bring instead, such as sparkling apple juice, non-alcoholic cider or wine, soft drinks, etc. Small snacks or nibbles (such as crisps, cake and the like) are another alternative. Similarly, if you are invited to someone's family home - especially, if this is for the first time or for a meal, bring a small gift. If you will be dining together, then a bottle of wine is again ideal, but you could also bring a small gift of flowers or chocolates instead. These need not be expensive, but the gesture will be warmly welcomed. To thank your host, a phone call or ‘thank you’ card is a good idea. Remember that in Britain you can never say ‘please’, ‘thank you’ or ‘sorry’ too often!

‘Cheers’ is one of the most commonly used words in Britain. It has two uses. One is at the pub, where you will hear it said as a toast over drinks. But you will also hear it said instead of ‘thank you’ or ‘good bye’ or ‘thanks and good bye’almost everywhere. Similarly, people will sometimes say ‘you all right?’ instead of ‘ How are you?’

A final point of note is about to how to address your tutors. As elsewhere, the general rule of thumb is to address a tutor as ‘Dr.’ or ‘Professor Burton’. But don't be surprised if you hear other students referring to their tutor by his/her first name, or if a tutor invites you to address them by their first name (for example, ‘John’). This is not unusual in Oxford. To repeat and to avoid any misunderstanding, the best - and by tar the safest - thing for you to do is to address them as ‘Dr.’ or ‘Professor’, and only if they ask you to do so and you are sure they won't mind, then by their first name.

In general, the British are very polite most of the time. ‘Please’ and ‘thank you’ are among the most commonly used words in Britain. People also have a tendency to apologize - some would say too much - and so, you will also hear ‘sorry’ and ‘excuse me’ a lot. The popular stereotype of the average British person is more often than not true - they will say sony to you, even when it is in fact you who has accidentally stepped on their toes or bumped into them! It will not surprise you to know then that queuing, or waiting in line so that someone who arrived first is served first, is another British near-obsession. It is sacrosanct. Seriously! Be it in the pub, at the supermarket or at a bus stop, people in Britain queue for everything. Pushing in or cutting into a queue is considered very impolite and you will be heavily frowned upon for doing it. It is one of the few occasions when the famously reserved British can get visibly annoyed in public, so do bear it in mind. In most cases, queues are easy to spot. They tend to be tidy lines of people waiting. In public places, including shops and restaurants, there will also usually be a sign - such as ‘Please Wait Here to Be Served’ or ‘Please Queue Here’. Where it can be a bit tricky is in pubs, where the lines are neither tidy nor so easy to spot at the bar. The best thing to do is to take note of who was there before you and wait your turn to be served after them. Bar staff are usually very good about keeping track of who should be served next.

Finally, punctuality is important in Britain. As a rule, you should arrive on time for appointments. Similarly, if you've arranged to meet someone at a pub, cafe or elsewhere and find yourself running late or unable to make it, then let the person you are meeting know.

 

3. Read the text again and complete the chart below:

 

Socializing is necessary in business if... you want to build a relationship with someone.
A good relationship can help you...because a good  

 

personal relationship creates...  
In some cultures, office colleagues... in other cultures...  
Verbal greetings are usually enough...as for women...  
If you are invited to dinner or to a party in their room by one of your friends...  
If you are invited to someone's family home...  
‘Cheers’ has two uses...  
Rules of addressing the tutors...  
The most commonly used words in Britain...  
British person will say sorry to you even when...  
People in Britain queue...  
Punctuality in Britain...  
If you are late for appointments ...  

 

Essential Vocabulary

 

socialize [saojbl.aiz] общаться
agenda [a'c^en.do] программа (работы), план (мероприятий); повестка дня (собрания)
mutual [mju:.tju.3l] обоюдный, взаимный; общий, совместный
acquaintance |a kwem.tnns] знакомство; знакомый
occasion [n'ker^n] случай, событие; повод, обстоятельство
go with the flow [дэи wi6 бэ floo] идти с потоком
empty-handed [emp.ti'haen.did] с пустыми руками
dissuade [di'sweid] отсоветовать, разговорить, разуверять
snack [snack] лёгкая закуска
host [haust] хозяин (человек, принимающий гостей)
cheer [ tjior] одобрительное, приветственное восклицание
address [o'dresj обращаться (к кому-л.), говорить (с кем-л.)
tutor [ tju:t9r] преподаватель, наставник (в школе); руководитель группы (в университете)
apologize [npnlodjaiz] извиняться (за что-л. перед кем-л.); приносить официальные извинения
queue [kju:] стоять в очереди, становиться в очередь
frown upon (at/on) [fraun э'ртэп] выражать неодобрение по поводу (ч-л.), осуждать(ч-л.)
famously [fei.mos.li] здорово, лихо, отлично, превосходно
misunderstanding [mis.An.da'staen.diij] неправильное понимание, неверное толкование; недоразумение, разногласие
keep track [ki:p traek] отслеживать
punctuality ['pAqk.tju.aliti] пунктуальность, точность
appointment (o ' point mailt ] свидание, условленная встреча
avoid [э1 void | избегать, остерегаться, сторониться, уклоняться

 

4. Use dictionaries to study the meaning of the following vocabulary items:

thumb, card, appointment.

1. Write out common collocations with them.

2. Find derivatives formed from thumb, appointment.

 

5. Match the wordswith their definitions. There are two extra definitions:

 

1. tutor 2. acquaintance 3. mutual 4. avoid 5. sacrosanct 6. keep track 7. dissuade 8. socialize 9. occasion 10. apologize 11. go with the flow 12. frown upon a) to try to prevent something from happening b) very holy c) a teacher in a college or university d) to spend time with other people socially, for example at a party e) a special or important time or event f) to tell someone that you are sorry for doing something wrong or for causing a problem g) someone you know a little, who is not a close friend h) the part at the side of your hand that is like a wide finger i) a piece of thick stiff paper folded into two equal parts, with a picture and a message on it apologize j) felt or done in the same way by each of two or more people go with the flow k) to persuade someone not to do something frown upon l) to have all the information that you need about something m) to not approve of something n) to do what seems like the easiest thing in a particular situation

 

 

6. Fill in the blanks with words from the word-box. There is one extra vocabulary item:

 

agenda queue appointment
snack famously empty-handed

 

1. The city's clubs are_______glamorous.

2. It would be a pleasure when he came back________ .

3. I________for two hours to get a ticket to see the football game.

4. What's on your__________for tomorrow?

5. I bought a sandwich for a late night________and a small flask of brandy.

 

7. Supply the necessary derivative/compound related to the italicized word the complete each sentence.

1. host We were very well_______and even dined at his house.

2. misunderstanding I think he has_______ the nature of the problem.

3. appointment They found it necessary_______the exact time and place of their meeting.

4. punctuality I expect my guests to be_______for breakfast.

5. address The black footman persecuted her with his________.

6. cheer The fire was a_______sight on such a cold, dreary day.

 

8. Paraphrase the following sentences using your active vocabulary:

  1. He never communicates with people from work.
  2. You can't go to the party without anything.
  3. Are we going to go on saying we’re sorry for everything?
  4. I appeal to your imagination, gentlemen: try to answer!
  5. “You think they're going to follow me up?” Paula asked, looking worried.
  6. Don't condemn me, and don't look on me as a villain," he added with a smile.
  7. You must have a cup of tea and light meal, anyway.
  8. 1 have the honour to be acting as trainer for the duration of your stay in this territory.
  9. Mary will raise the question at her meeting with the director.
  10. Angela Bassett has won critical acclaim for her excellent performance.